Before i start saying anything, let me ask you a simple question, If a neatly dressed man comes to you and asks for 100 bucks to go back home, as his wallet has been knocked off, will you trust him and give him the money? Yes? No? Maybe?Most of us would say a No, since we all have been duped by someone or the other, or heard stories of people making excuses to make some easy money.
Now let me tell you where i am driving you to. I have been thinking over a past few days, about the trust we have on any other individual outside family, especially if you are a women. With so many kidnap and rape stories, one really does want to take a chance.
Now this suspicion has various categories, the first one is a little paradoxical. Its like when someone is being very good to you, smiles and talks to you, shows you extra care, we would grow suspicious. About what the other person wants from you, why is he being so kind? Have we forgotten that human beings are supposed to be nice to each other, but now its an unsaid rule to be careful if the other guy who could be an auto driver is being good to you. Even if his intentions are at its best not to harm you, its very difficult to believe.
The second one is a very common one. People coming to our place: could be a plumber, electrician or a delivery boy, how friendly are we with them? Every day we see incidents being reported about burglary at houses by robbers disguised as Delivery boys or salesmen. I am not sure who is at fault here. We cant trust them because of such incidents but if you just try putting yourself in their shoes, you would realize how bad it feels when another human being treats you like you are an evil person. We do not even offer water to them at times.
And the third kind is commonly misunderstood as possessiveness. In couples both young and old, the guy or the girl does not like it when their respective partners go out with someone else. They feel insecure, they doubt, they think their partner is giving more importance to another. Why are they suspicious, because a lot of people they know might have got cheated or they themselves might have been ditched before.
So we really do not know whom to blame. The mind is most of the times not in our control. We might be in a situation someday when we need money and our wallet would have been knocked off, we might knock on someone’s door for water someday, we might want to go out with our best friend whom our partner might not like. So what do we do in such situations? They may not Trust you just like you would not.
Life does not have answers all the time.