This is exactly the conversation I had with my dearest friend last Monday: Actually it’s a part, be happy at least I am generous enough to share it 😛
Him:(could not make his name funny ;).)-What the hell yaar, you cannot understand this little thing? I am busy, I can’t join you for the Movie.
Me: “This little thing”, Are you kidding me ?The last week when I had planned a meet with all old friends you were busy with other friends, the week before you could not come for the puja at home as you had relatives at home. This time what’s your excuse?
Him: THEY ARE NOT F###### EXCUSES. It’s the truth and it is genuine. I seriously have problems. Now I have to hang up and please don’t call back. ‘tak and the line goes dead with an engage tone’.
But he really knows me well, since I called back, I hate to keep conversations half, though I never let the other person finish it.
<<Tring>> <<Tring>>, four calls go waste and one tear droplet pops up and his friends follow from all directions from both eyes. He picks up, he is fuming with anger, comparing him with an Angry bird would be an understatement.
Him: What is it yaar? I told you don’t call back.
Me: I am crying dude.(attempt to sympathy 😉 ;)), you don’t want to talk, what if people are around you. You have to explain to me,Why only in my case you get busy? When it’s your friends you are not, when family you are not and you tell me I am your best friend. From now on don tell that.
Him:Ok.(dying to close the conversation but not so soon boy)(sadist me)
Me: Okay? oh!! now you have new friends right? right. why do you need to talk to me, You don’t care, I was blind to not have seen it.. I use a lot more of this metaphorical expressions to get across my point. but in vain. I told you he knows me just too well.
Him: Listen I’m switching my phone. DON CALL ME BACK you B……… No he does not say it. 🙂 I survive.
Now I am crying, so automatically my brain has stopped working, all I want is to fight with him, make him feel bad, tell him a lot of unrelated stuff, make him feel guilty and at the end feel peaceful at heart. oh my god, I have so much of sadism inside me. See writing helps. Now his phone is switched off, I can’t show people I’m crying, I carry the “Strong Girl” avatar with me, but I also can’t stop the turmoil inside me, making me feel “oh you unimportant creature, see he actually does not have time only for you, and you foolishly gave me so much of undue importance.” And I fall for this inner voice of mine(which guy said all inner voices are good) and feel defeated. But now how do I spit the venom inside me out on him? And then my Gmail becomes my tool to glory.
I put his email address in to list and start typing my heart out in the email. Sorry could not enclose my email, I guess I already ruined my personality enough, don’t wish to do it any further J. I abuse him very generously, I write stuff I can’t even dream of telling the worst of my enemies, I then neatly put down all the instances where I helped him and where he turned me away,(girls I tell you… ;they remember everything)).. maybe if I could write such neat answers in exams I would have topped in my university. The point is, even before I reach to signing my name off I feel lighter than ever, my tears have stopped long back lest I could not have seen clearly. I also start thinking clearly and of all the times when if he was not there to help, I would have been in deep down trouble. I don’t send this email to him because by now I’m cool and don feel mad at him anymore. I trash it. I do mention to him about the email and we both share a laugh on that.
You guys should try it and tell me if it works, mostly it should work. It is a cheap stress buster and typing it as a mail serves even better because then it gives you a real feel of you telling it your friend/ enemy. It works more than once 🙂
I have learnt from experiences in my life that bad and unhealthy arguments have only given ME pain, and tears. I have also lost many a friends, made a lot of enemies. But god has been grateful enough to bless me with friends who forgive me for my lose tongue, giving a long thought to useless stuff and also make me understand that they love me for who I am and I don’t really have to change.
But yet, I feel a surge inside me, and this time it is the sane inner voice, that I should try and control my anger, not talk only my part of the frustration and also let my people do that. After all it’s my turn to give back in the good way.
We all get frustrated, angry and hold bad things for people at one point of our life, I felt it at many a times, so I know how good it feels when you can vent it out on someone and the other person instead of shouting back, takes it calmly and understands your pain behind it. So here is tinny winy advice to all of you, if you think someone is telling more than required and you genuinely care for that person take the heat, its fine at least the other person will feel better. You will feel like a friend indeed. A few of my angel like friends not only take my anger and also make me smile.
So if you are angry take a pen/ or just start typing randomly but don’t fight. You will always know if your anger is genuine or not. And if your dear friend is mad at you, tell them bring it on. Anger is yet another way of expressing love.(applies to good friends, I would never recommend my dear readers to take shit from random strangers 🙂 :))
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Review for Barfi 🙂
Madhu Stars: 7… 8… no its a 10/10
They say love has no language, its a bond between two hearts and Barfi has truly shown expressing love does not need words. I have a very big soft corner for Ranbir kapoor and was blown off by the trailer of the movie. From the day i watched the trailer i just wanted to watch the movie and then came the lovely songs, which i kept listening on my mp3. And they say if you really want something the world conspires for you to get it(It did-That will come in another post) and finally i witnessed the Best movie of 2012. Its not exaggeration but the flawless performance by Piggi chops(Priyanka Chopra) and R.K (Ranbir) left me spellbound. Ileana added superbly to the beauty quotient of the movie, and also her role deserves appreciation. She looked a very expressive and beautiful Bengali.
The movie is shot mostly in parts of Darjeeling and Kolkata. Being a Bengali, the familiar culture and scenes added to the flavor of my Barfi. The plot of the movie is by far the most simple of all movies i have seen, at a point i was so lost in the musical silence that when any actor spoke, i felt perturbed.
Ranbir, our dearest Barfi was actually named Murphy after the cute Murphy radio baby. He is born mute, sounds sad?.. Not to worry becuase our lovely character made his life more happier and merrier than most of us. Priyanka(Jhilmil) is a very sweet, tender but mentally challenged girl, born to a drunk mother and a greedy father who consider her to be a disgrace in their society. Ileana(Shruti) is a very pretty girl who comes to stay in Darjeeling for a short while. She meets barfi and falls for his innocence, charm and feels free from her fiancee’s grip. But Who gets Barfi? Its only when he loses his true love he realises her treasured place in his heart and sets out to find her to never let her go again.
Barfi has a very interesting but scary way to test the loyalty of his friends, but it is for you to watch out for who clears it. The movie captures the theme of unconditional love, very beautifully. It is very simple to say the 3 words of love but somewhere we all flounder or are caught in the mind web of concerns about the future, difference in financial conditions etc etc..
I feel even if you are a bit confused, your trust is shaky on the person you love then may be its not love and it would not last forever.This is a moral i could get from the movie.
Few of the reviews told that all the funny acts performed by ranbir in the movie are picked up from charlie chaplin movies, but i thoroughly loved it and felt he did justice to what he wanted to perform, after all most of us are copying someone somewhere who is better than us. It entertained me and thats the bottom line. Priyanka was superb too but may be I felt it was a little overmade at times but no complains.
One actor who deserves a special mention is Saurabh Shukhla who plays the role of the police inspector always chasing Barfi. His role too was very natural and touching.
One scene which touched mine and may be most of the hearts was when Shruti tells Barfi that Jhilmil is calling out to him. He could not hear he would have just walked off and been Shruti’s forever but would he really be hers? Her ethical dilemma and her reaction left us surprised. Does holding on to someone else’s love really worth?
All in all it was complete entertainer. It really proves that a movie necessarily does not have to fall in the ‘A’ movie bracket or have absurd scenes and abuses to gather attention. A very simply made story with perfect choice of actors, very beautiful screenplay can grab people’s hearts. Hats off Mohit Mukherjee and Anurag Basu. We all Relished your Barfi 🙂 :)…. Can you guess the IMDB rating… 😉 😉 😉
Its…..naah not telling you, go watch it for a memorable and feel good experience. One sweet message i want to leave you with: