Love.. Love.. Love Love Love… Hate is a strong word, but i really really don’t like you..By Plain White Ts. This song only tells me that after a break up, two people who were so madly in love start loathing each other and cannot stand each other.
Today my blog post goes out to all broken hearts, people who regret their past relationship, have strained relationships with their Xs and also the victims of one sided love stories.
Almost every girl or guy i know, is in a relationship or is out of a relationship or is going through a break up or is sulking at the fact that the person they like do not like them. Another new breed which i see now is the set of people who are unhappy because they cant go out with a person they like lest they would lose their friendship.
This new kind of relationship is between two best friends who find lot of solace and happiness in each other. But its not so easy since the two best friends belong to opposite genders and their closeness cannot be perceived as best friends by their friends but as that of a girl friend and boy friend. This viewpoint of others sometimes blurs our vision and at times overpowers it, and we are unsure of what we feel for our friend.
Also one person may feel that when the other person is so special what is wrong in being in a relationship, since there is no clear distinction or boundaries of how much you should like a person. But when the other person feels otherwise things get complicated. Its not that the other one cares less or has less liking but thinks that the relationship cannot materialize in the long run.
Sometimes its best to be friends if you really care for the other person, and are unsure of the future, since two people cannot be friends if they break off their affair. A break up mostly is because one person cannot commit or falls for somebody else. So as you can see, the other party is in more pain and has suffered a major heartbreak.
Now the two people who were so cute together and could fight the world for each other suddenly start fighting a cold war between them. But the biggest pain most of the times is that, the one person who used to be your best friend, with whom you had no formalities, suddenly gets so far that you can’t even talk to each other. This disappoints me the most that you end up losing your favorite friend. The person who breaks up cannot talk,since they have to stick to the stand and the other person is so hurt and feels their ego is hurt as he/she is dumped.
Can’t two people behave with more maturity and instead of being enemies be two people who would stay special for the other person and be good friends always. But i am sure i would not have too many supporters for this thought of mine, so i am not trying to justify my stand.
They say Everything is fair in love and war, but now what i see is Love itself is the New War X-).
All i wish to tell people is if you like the other person, be good to them, don’t predict the future too much and do not let the complications crop in. Face rejection with more gracefully, after all saying no to your best friend is not a very cool thing to do. It is equally painful. Not being able to convert the relationship as per your wish should not be like an ego hurt, but rather one should learn to respect another individual’s decision. Life is too short to hate anyone, Love is a strong word but we can surely like people around us. 🙂
One day you would think back in your life and feel, I have what i need which may not always be what i wanted.