The day I STOPPED blackmailing God

Long long ago,  i read a few verses by Sant Kabir Das, whose lines i don recollect well, but it meant, that God has created us and hence is just like our parent.  And how many of us have begged stuff from our parents? Almost none. Our parents no matter what try to fulfill our sensible wishes 😉.  So if god is also like our mum and dad then, he should give us whatever we like. But yet again, just like at home, it takes time for him to fulfill our wishes.

Like daddy, he decides if it will be a good choice for us or not, and since our demands get  real huge when it comes to God, the waiting period is a little higher. We don’t merely ask for a car or a laptop, but for a person(gf/bf i mean ;), a seat in the best college and so on.

“Manga jo mera hai, jaata kya tera hai,

maine kaunsi tujhse jannat maang li,

kaisa khuda hai tu, bas naam ka hai tu,

rabba jo teri itni bhi na chali.

are a few lines from the song, “aaj din chadeya ” from Love Aaj kal which mean, “Oh god i ask of you what is mine, what do you lose. What kind of god are you, you are just an illusion if you cant grant me even this. Seems like a little kid, is demanding for his right from god and fighting with him.

So anyways, i always believed that I’m God’s favorite kid and , that he loves me very much and he treats my requests on priority, and i get what i want. But i had to keep him happy too, i never over demanded, i also cooperated with him and wore only my lucky clothes on my exams, so that it got easy for him to spark magic.  I went to the temple, did my discussions with him face to face, and also settled for a nice bargain. I promised to break 2 coconuts, take 11 or 108 rounds, depending on the size of the demand.  And they worked.

But eventually my demands got bigger, i wanted control over the feelings of other individuals, i wanted my crushes to feel what i felt for them, i wanted to get admission into the best MBA college, i wanted to be the lucky prize winner in all competitions, i wanted to top in all my exams, and as usual, i was following the rules i had set up in this virtual contract. But wearing my lucky clothes, coconut promises was not helping. God was backing out in every single deal. All my crushes walked up to me and told which other girl they liked, Everyone was falling in love with everyone else, all of them were going to the best of the colleges, wearing the best of the clothes, and i seemed lost like a pauper. I was PISSED WITH HIM. But who can sue god.  I decided if He has so much attitude, i am not going to beg him for anything. And i stopped asking him for anything, I stopped the emotional blackmail, (Somewhere i thought he would miss me too, and grant my wishes to make me happy), but nothing happened. The stone was unmoved. I decided that il talk to him eye in eye and that i don’t need anything from him.

But he was Bigger, he knew me better than i knew myself, i could see things falling in place,my friends who landed up in good colleges, were happy but so was I. I was growing wherever i was, my life was happier. My crushes ended up getting dumped or dumping my friends. I was glad i was not hooked with anyone.

But distancing from god, actually transformed my mindset. I realised, that every unrealistic wish of our does not have to come true, and if all wishes came true, the purpose of life is lost. I already stopped asking him for anything, No barter system was being followed. I now knew that i din need him to fulfill my dreams, but i needed him to give me support. I was still looking at his eyes, but this time it was not anger or rage but with perseverance, patience, and a hope that i am capable enough to achieve my dreams.

I never really thanked him for anything, so i had no right for me to accuse him as well. I still go to the temple not to scold him for hurting me but to seek a little bit of peace, sounds philosophical, but it helps. It gives me courage to fight, it gives me courage to look into people’s eyes, and treat them the way they want to be treated rather than how i feel about them.

It is true that the world conspires for you to get the best gifts in your life, but one should never lose the motivation and genuineness  inside to achieve their goals.

Inspire yourself  for the world to Conspire is what i believe 🙂

 

Rough Look is a big NO on a DATE ;) ;). Shave or Crave Men :)

I still remember daddy rubbing his stubble  cheeks against my soft ones when i was year or two and how much i found it cute. But i have now left that day long behind. And now whenever i see men with  beard or stubble, i wonder what unfortunate stuff has happened to them, why have they become another Devdas ;). Trust me even sharukh did not look good in that look.  The clean shave look is so in for all roles and occasions, especially on a time out with a girl. Some people argue saying, clean shave guys don’t look manly enough, but i thought your actions spoke more for your manliness 😉 . A guy whose face has to be searched under his beard, is such a big turn off.

Imagine if your girl had beard on her face would you even feel like looking at her? Yes a guy and a girl are different i know that 😉 but a clean shave does not even take more than a couple of minutes and is not even  painful as Waxing. But look at the advantages, your face will light up her eyes, and make you a great day.

But i guess you guys already know that the clean shaven look is the most decent to be, that’s why you would see them neatly dressed, with no stubble on a day of their interview then why not on a date, When all a girl looks out for is a guy whose cheeks can pulled and said woogly woogly wush (like the ponds ad).  Okay, “woogly woogly wush”  is not corny or cheesy or any chauvinistic term of a guy, but it cute :), the real men would know.  I can imagine any guy(fair or dark or wheatish) clean shaven with a nice pair of clothes(casuals or formals) with a sun glasses on, make any girl fall flat for them.

And you don’t want her hands coming close to hold you by your face and kiss you get hurt with your poky stubble on.  A girl is soft like a petal, let her touch your soft skin.  :)..

So what are you waiting for? Become her teddy bear and get ready to be hugged and kissed 🙂 with your neat, stubble free look. 🙂

Leave the roughness behind and show her the gentleman in you :). So Better Shave then Crave 😛

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PS: I know all the girls out there would be shouting “Yay!, Yay!” at my blog post and guys just immersed in deep thoughts thinking “Really, is this true” 😉 ;).. But i hope i hurt no sentiments and sorry if i did,  It is a competition for an Ipad, i could not afford to miss 🙂

Talaash-A lost plot. Definitely not a suspense thriller.

One of the most sought after movies of 2012, a movie which was being called a superhit even before it released was none other than Aamir khan flick Talaash. I remember people around eagerly waiting and making advance bookings for Talaash.  But did the movie and Aamir live up to viewers expectations? Not an Affirmative.

With a lot of negative reviews in the air for the movie, my respect for Aamir and kashyap told me that when i could withstand movies like Jab tak hai jaan and Student of the year, this would be way better. And not surprisingly i was not that disappointed.  I cannot complain of the performances of Aamir, Rani and Kareena.  They did complete justice to their roles. Unfortunately i knew the so called “mystery factor” even before i could watch the movie, but that did not hamper the storyline so much for me because it was like an open secret right from the beginning of the movie.

The movie centers around Inspector Shekhawat(Aamir) investigating the murder of a famous actor, and in the process of investigation he meets many interesting characters of the movie and uncovers only the dead truths. It all leads him to dead ends but it becomes a very simple case with the help of his newly found friend “rosy” a sex worker who seems to connect all the dots so well for him :). 😉 ;).  But Shekhawat was also fighting with himself, not sleeping in the nights because he held himself guilty for his only son’s accidental death.  Rani who is Aamir’s wife in the movie has done a very sober performance and it gave me immense pleasure to see her in bengal cotton sarees and not in the skimpy clothes she put on in “aiyya”.  She had slipped into depression after her son’s demise and was trying to regain some happiness by establishing contact with her dead son. So was she hallucinating? Amair felt his wife needed help, and his wife  felt the vice versa.

I strongly feel Nawazuddin Siddiqui(apna faizal khan from Gangs of wasseypur) did a commendable role but he could have been used more.  Kareena looks amazingly stunning, no complains but Aamir i still have to get used to seeing you in a tough role. The movie has steady pace and cannot be called boring. It was definitely not as briiliant and flawless as it was hyped to be but it was simply okay.

There is absolutely no comparison of Talaash and kahaani because there is no mystery, yes no mystery in Talaash, its a story you would be partly entertained with but not something whose last scene would blow you away, in fact i felt the last few scenes were very poorly shot.  If it were a novel i would say proof reading was very bad, a lot of loopholes and flaws were left behind which you cannot ignore.

But tell me Aamir what were you trying to find? Or rather what was movie aiming at? Why did you have to promote your movie through television flicks like CID(Don go by the name, its actually a comedy series 😉 ) and Sacchai ki talaash. These publicity stunts were not needed if your story was strong enough.

An expected ending, a very lose plot but only savior was good actors, very nice music tracks and a proper flow of the movie. So you would not get bored for sure.

Madhu Stars: the answer lies within 😛 (3/5)

The Bankster-A superb attempt at Mystery-Ravi Subramanian

Book: The Bankster

Author:Ravi Subramanian

Genre: Fiction(Mystery Thriller)

Madhu Stars:3.5/5

Here comes another gripping murder mystery by Ravi Subramanian after ‘The Incredible Banker“,If God Was a Banker,I Bought the Monk’s Ferrari and a couple more which won quite a few prestigious awards. Though i never got a chance to hold on to any of his books, i was well aware of his works. Being a management graduate he associates his books books in and around bankers and banking. But the book cover may get you thinking. A man holding a briefcase and a gun, so who is he? a Banker, a Gangster or a Bankster?

The story revolves around a bank known as GB2,  and its interesting characters and their works. It is centralized around a few key employees, Vikram, Tanuja, Harshita, Raymond and a few more and how a few of them get murdered in suspicious circumstances. The surprising part is all these employees are apples of the CEO’s eyes and are supposed to be the best bankers, relationship managers but they blow you away by their corrupt practices and the way they deceive their customers. And money laundering being the hottest topics of now, Ravi has hit bang on. But its just not about the bank. There is another story concentric to this one, which is about an old man, Krishna Menon whose fight is not anywhere close to banking or these bankers but against setting up a nuclear plant who is avenging his son’s death(how, why? Read the book :P) . The beauty is in the sync between these two stories.

Its about lies, deceit and how greed to earn more can take over a person’s humanity. It is obvious that the people close to truth are eliminated and all their deaths look like accidents or suicides.

But will Karan Punjabi, an ex banker and now a journalist with TOI be able to uncover the mystery of the deaths of his ex-colleagues or will the killer be smart enough to deceive him when he is this close to unravel it all.

The book is gripping enough, i really did hold on to it but also forced myself to stop when i felt that i wanted to unravel the mystery myself before i knew the end. I do not feel the book’s cover did any justice to the actual story 😉 but jokes apart, the book’s literary quotient could have been better  and i could have done away with a the melodrama(inherent in most of the Indian Author books) and unnecessary stretching of the book here and there. Every murder mystery is a story within itself and there is a very subtle link between all. I can say so because here the consecutive chapters are not necessarily linked but it does not lose its charm and keeps you reading.

Like a few one liners say about the author comparing him to John Grisham is a far fetched comparison but it is definitely a decent attempt in the lines of mystery.  Not being from management/banking background i do not know if the book can really be called about bankers, that’s up to the other readers to decide. But I guess it is a very good read and does not really bore you at any part. The book picks up pace from the 4/5 chapter onward.

Readers of John Grisham,Stephen White,Michael Crichton e.t.c, might feel that the story has a very expected ending and could have been more finely framed in terms of the deaths and banking policies but i respect any author who can maintain the interest levels of the reader and not let it drop. And besides that the ending was not that expected also :P.. Grab the book, since its worth the money.

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